Counseling | 8/26/20

Homework Assignments.

Daniel.

1. Book Assignment: Read "Act Like Men: 40 Days To Biblical Manhood" By: James Macdonald
   1. Beginning tomorrow, read one chapter/entry per day over a span of 40 days to honor the rhythm of the authors desire for the book. They should take you about 30 minutes per day. 
      
   2. If possible, do this to start your mornings or during your lunch each day.
      
   3. Write your journal/response to each chapter/entry over the course of 40 days.
      
   4. For accountability, you will send me a daily email for the next 40 days letting me know that you have done your reading for the day. 
2. Men's Den Night Group: Continue to faithfully attend Men's Den Night to build Christ-centered relationships. 
3. Household Responsibilities: Accept full responsibility of taking the trash out this week; PLUS put the trash bag in after!
4. STARTING Affirmation and Affections Project: Please get started on this project. 

Ariana.

1. Women's Book Club: Continue to participate in Women's book club through Redemption City Church.
2. Household Responsibilities: Make breakfast twice before our next meeting for Daniel. 

Couples.

1. Couples Devotion: Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? Please Purchase HERE
   1. ​Please read and spend time discussing one chapter per week. Designate the same time and day per week on your calendar. 
      
2. CONTINUE Creating Space Assignment: In honor of her husband, Ariana, will give Daniel 30-45min to himself when he gets home so he can transition better into the home.

Next Counseling Session.

• ​Wednesday September 23rd 
  • 6:30pm - 7:30pm

Counseling | 8/18/20

Homework Assignments.

Daniel.

1. Book Assignment: Purchase "Act Like Men: 40 Days To Biblical Manhood" By: James Macdonald 
   1. IMPORTANT: Have the book ready and available at our next counseling appointment for next steps.​
2. Men's Den Night Group: Please sign up for Men's Den Night by texting this number (951) 532- 6755
   1. Copy and paste this message to the number:
      1. Hello, My name is Daniel Rojas and Pastor Brandon invited me to be a part of Men's Den Night. Could you please add me to both your text list, and email list so I can participate. My Number is (209) 406-1521 and my email is drojas2@ymail.com. Thanks so much!
3. Household Responsibilities: Accept full responsibility of taking the trash out this week; PLUS put the trash bag in after!
4. STARTING Affirmation and Affections Project: I will email you privately your assignment. 

Ariana.

1. Book Assignment: Purchase "Sick Of Me: From Transparency To Transformation" By: Whitney Capps
   1. IMPORTANT: Please purchase today!! Group starts this Friday! 
2. Women's Book Club: Sign up for the facebook group for the book today! (This Friday @ 7pm)
   1. Please sign up now HERE
3. Household Responsibilities: Make breakfast twice before our next meeting for Daniel. 

Couples.

1. Biblical Foundation Assignment: Please watch Part 8 - Unity Within The Family Unit HERE
   1. ​Please fill out this guide as you listen to the sermon. Click HERE
      1. Please be prepared to share your guide that you filled out regarding what you learned in our next appointment. 
      2. It is very helpful to take notes during this sermon to help you remember what your were thinking. 
      3. IMPORTANT: This will take you about and 1hr & 15 minutes, please dedicate time together to do this assignment. 
2. CONTINUE Creating Space Assignment: In honor of her husband, Ariana, will give Daniel 30-45min to himself when he gets home so he can transition better into the home.

Next Counseling Session.

• ​Wednesday August 26th
  • 11:30am - 12:30pm

Counseling Moments | 8/4/20

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Homework Assignments.

Daniel.

1. Journal Assignment: What is at the core of your anger? Take your time and journal your thoughts.
   1. IMPORTANT: Schedule with Ariana a time to sit down to share.
   2. Please be radically honest and be prepared to share in our next counseling appointment, until than keep private. 
2. Household Responsibilities: Accept full responsibility of taking the trash out this week; PLUS put the trash bag in after!
3. Affirmation and Affections Project: List 5 creative ways you can bring more affirmation & affection to your marriage.
   1. Please email me this list by the end of Sunday.​

Ariana.

1. Journal Assignment: Write down creative ways you can begin setting the stage for Daniel to feel more safe and open regarding his emotions.
   1. Please be radically honest and be prepared to share in our next counseling appointment, until than keep private. 
2. Household Responsibilities: Begin regularly making at least two meals a week to honor and serve your husband.

Couples.

1. Biblical Foundation Assignment: Please watch Part 7 - Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (Sin, Redemption, Application) HERE
   1. ​Please fill out this guide as you listen to the sermon. Click HERE
      1. Please be prepared to share your guide that you filled out regarding what you learned in our next appointment. 
      2. It is very helpful to take notes during this sermon to help you remember what your were thinking. 
      3. IMPORTANT: This will take you about and 1hr & 15 minutes, please dedicate time together to do this assignment. 
2. Creating Space Assignment: In honor of her husband, Ariana, will give Daniel 30-45min to himself when he gets home so he can transition better into the home. 
3. Date Night Time: Get out of the house and spend an intentional few hours doing something you BOTH enjoy.

Next Counseling Session.

• ​​Tuesday August 18th
  •  11:30am - 12:30pm
• Wednesday August 26th
  • 11:30am - 12:30pm

Counseling Moments | 7/29/20

Daniel's Comments.

1. Realizations About My Wife
   1. ​Ariana doesn't cook, and that is challenging because I was raised with a mom who did.
   2. Ariana is significantly attached to her dads authority and chooses his words above anyone else’s which makes it difficult for me at times as her husband.
2. Rebellions Against About My Wife
   1. I have an aversion to doing chores around the house and helping out with the trash and taking care of our dogs. Though I know my wife wants to help I’m resistant to do it.
   2. I’m not a sacrificial as I could be regarding our sexual intimacy.

Main Marital Issue: We don’t have quality time.

Ariana's Comments.

1. Realizations About My Husband:
   1. I did not know that my husband could be so very lazy. I see it play out in many areas of his life and our marriage.
   2. I’m beginning to realize how hardheaded my husband can be and his inability to demonstrate and share his feelings. This effects me.
2. Rebellions Against My Husband:
   1. I am starting to not desire to be a helpmate for my husband when he ask things of me regarding assistance
   2. I noticed that I have started creating arguments with my husband just to get a reaction so that he would give me attention and focus on me

Main Marital Issue: We don’t have quality time.

Homework Assignments.

Daniel.

1. Journal Assignment: Why do I struggle to be more intimate and revealing of my emotions within my marriage?
   1. Please be radically honest and be prepared to share in our next counseling appointment, until than keep private. 
2. Household Responsibilities: Accept full responsibility of taking the trash out this week.

Ariana.

1. Journal Assignment: Share with your husband through your journal about the pain you experienced both as a child and adult victim of abuse. 
   1. Please be radically honest.
   2.  Spend one hour with your husband intimately connecting over your pain this Saturday 8/1/20 @ 8:30pm
2. Household Responsibilities: With love, seek your husband out and ask him what meal you can begin learning that he would enjoy having, and make it for him in a private one on one dinner.

Couples.

1. Biblical Foundation Assignment: Please watch Part 6 - Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (Creation & Design) HERE
   1. ​Please fill out this guide as you listen to the sermon. Click HERE
      1. Please be prepared to share your guide that you filled out regarding what you learned in our next appointment. 
      2. It is very helpful to take notes during this sermon to help you remember what your were thinking. 
      3. IMPORTANT: This will take you about and 1hr & 15 minutes, please dedicate time together to do this assignment. 

Next Counseling Session.
Tuesday August 4th, 11:30am-12:30pm

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